So I need to vent,
I don’t know if the title subtly reflects the theme of the blog but let me explain. So a few months ago, specifically late December, 2015 I decided to be completely natural with my hair. That is, not using chemical relaxers or texturisers in favour of keeping the hair in its natural state. Of course, as a naturalista you are allowed to use hair products to soften, detangle and define your natural curls. And my decision to become natural wasn’t a fashion trend or a statement but finally accepting my whole self. Embracing my blackness. Acknowledge my God given features that define me. Anyway that aside.
Since then I have been enlightened like I mentioned in my previous blogs. Your hair really does define you. What I mean by that is, people stare at me differently nowadays. Being stared at is not something new to me but the noticeable change is how people stare at me when my hair is in its natural state. Some with curiosity, awe or admiration but some with this sense of uneasiness, almost as if to infer that there is a correlation between my hair in it’s natural state and their comfortability. Anyway, off on another tangent but I did say I am having a rant. Despite the different hairstyles I wore I endured some form of criticism. So a few incidences that stood out to me as demonstrated by the following pictures of the hairstyles I wore accompanied by statements made by real people were:
That is just a taste of some of the comments I get on a daily basis and sometimes from the same people. I admit, some of my responses to those comments have been hostile. For example, I remember at a club, a few people had asked to touch my hair. My standard response became “you can touch it if I get to slap you.” Generally, I’m a sweet person but at that point I had had enough and one too many alcoholic beverages so you can only imagine my annoyance.
Anyway, my point is:
1. I am not a petting zoo
2. My hair is not an object of your fascination and constant ignorant questions
3. I am not open to anyone touching my hair unless I invite you to
Why, correct me if I’m wrong but I don’t see anyone asking a person with silky straight hair if they can feel their hair. My suggestion is if you have a naturally curious mind then quench that thirst by going on the internet to educate yourself on this subject matter. We live in a digital age where people like myself are willing to discuss these issues openly. Ignorance is not an excuse in the 21st century.